Has this happened to you? One minute you’re out to buy ‘one thing,’ but somehow the pull of Starbs is too strong and you buy that latte. Then you pass by the drug store, and realize you’re low on shampoo, only to leave the store with $60.00 worth of necessities. And now you’re hungry, where’s the food??!….and wait, you have a job interview coming up…NEW BLAZER TIME! Ahhhggg.
Spending bender (def’n): Making a sh*t ton of irrational purchases. Symptoms include: anger, disappointment, frustration, feeling out of control, and a full on buying hangover.
Much like planning to have ‘one drink’ at the bar with friends, somehow one of those nights, that one drink turns into a couple pitchers and tequila shots. The next day you feel like complete sh*t and have major regrets. The same feelings (minus the puking hopefully) happens when you go on a spending bender.
All that unexpected buying can leave you feeling gutted and all of your work to save is destroyed. I’m a fairly savvy spender, but I have these spending benders every once in awhile that I need to curb. Unfortunately, I can’t quit shopping cold turkey, so I’ve come up with a few strategies to avoid the buying hangover.
2. Breathe and forgive yourself.
Once out of the line of fire, drop you purchases, sit down and breathe. Feel the feelings of disappointment or anger and let them pass through you. Once you let the negative emotions arise and pass, forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and you need to be compassionate towards yourself.
3. Take a look at the damage.
I suggest doing this the following day, when the disappointment and anger isn’t as strong. You need to realize there are consequences to your spending benders, so you’ve gotta take a look at the damage. Remember that the hangover is temporary, and if you face it head-on, you’ll recover quicker.
How do you deal with a spending bender and the buying hangover?